WHATEVER FATE SAYS

 

Nina was looking out from the living room window at the hawkers passing by in front of houses, students running to catch up to school, and everyone walking. This house was her old age project. She intended to stay in this house until she died. When she grew old, when she had no strength left, when she couldn’t go outside, she would sit and watch the outside world. Had she started this too early? Her late mother came to mind. She was a very hardworking woman. “My daughter, what you give with your hand, will come back to you,” she would say. She believed you would see the return of your actions in this life itself. She considered giving more valuable than receiving. Giving labor and having something in return was very precious to her. She had raised Nina in the same way. She never fulfilled Nina’s wishes right away, always adding some time in between, wanting her to work for it.

Nina also had a son who is now 18 years old. He wanted a brand-name shoe that he saw his friends wearing, he wanted to eat and drink in expensive cafes, and he loved luxury life. His school performance wasn’t good either. His biggest dream was to become rich easily. In his mind, wealth was a matter of luck. It was enough for God to say, “Go, my servant”. He didn't need to do anything. Whatever was in his fate would happen anyway. But his friend Austin wasn’t like that. Austin didn’t leave things to chance; he would prepare for his exams well in advance. He made sure to go to bed early and always arrived at school on time. Due to this discipline, he was liked by his teachers. Even if his exam grades weren’t great, he would ask his teachers to increase his score by one or two points, and they’d let him pass.

 While Nina sipped her tea, she thought, “Where did I go wrong?” She had wanted her children to have the things she didn’t get when she was young, but now she found herself in this situation.

Last week on a skiing vacation, someone hit her from behind while she was skiing and tore her meniscus. She couldn’t drive. At least until she had surgery, she wasn’t supposed to drive. Her son Aaron, who had graduated but wasn’t working, slept until noon. Even though Nina needed to leave early, she was waiting for her son to wake up. It was already 2:00 p.m.

She went to her son’s door and knocked on the locked door, calling out to Aaron. In a tone that suggested he was willing to sleep until evening if left alone, Aaron said, "Who is it?"

- Son, come on, we were going to go to the doctor... We're late, I've been waiting for you for hours.

- Oh, can't you not go today?

- My son, are you kidding me, I've been waiting for you for hours, I'm in pain and need a preoperative examination.

- Uff! OK!

- Meet me in the car in 15 minutes.

Nina was very uncomfortable that in a situation where she needed attention and help, her son acted like what they were supposed to do was a favor. It was especially difficult to raise a boy without a father. It had been five years since she divorced her husband. She wanted to leave him because she was tired of his laziness and attitude of leaving everything to fate and luck. Her son was like a copy of his father.

He too trusted in fate by not telling his son what he needed to do, not giving him responsibility, but only giving him authority. However, since we don't know what our fate is, we must make every effort we can and in everything we have control over, we should change what we can. This was an important detail. She could have prevented her son from sleeping until noon, or she could have shown him that he couldn’t live carelessly, getting everything handed to him, by restricting his opportunities. Because life would only reward her son for what he could do. Expecting more would be doing him a disservice.

Nina got ready and went down to the car. When her son Aaron came along and started to start the car and they drove off, Nina turned to Aaron with her new decisions out loud and said, “May our new journey be auspicious” with a smile.

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